{"id":32640,"date":"2023-12-06T13:38:20","date_gmt":"2023-12-06T13:38:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.oakwoodtraining.co.uk\/?p=32640"},"modified":"2023-12-06T13:46:28","modified_gmt":"2023-12-06T13:46:28","slug":"loneliness-during-the-holidays","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.oakwoodtraining.co.uk\/loneliness-during-the-holidays\/","title":{"rendered":"Loneliness during the Holidays"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"32640\" class=\"elementor elementor-32640\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-702d0118 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"702d0118\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-7d6bf627\" data-id=\"7d6bf627\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e704341 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e704341\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.21.0 - 30-04-2024 *\/\n.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-stacked .elementor-drop-cap{background-color:#69727d;color:#fff}.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-framed .elementor-drop-cap{color:#69727d;border:3px solid;background-color:transparent}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap{margin-top:8px}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap-letter{width:1em;height:1em}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap{float:left;text-align:center;line-height:1;font-size:50px}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap-letter{display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t<p>At Christmas, we tend to associate the prospect of loneliness with older people; in recent years, the much-anticipated seasonal TV ad campaigns for several famous brands have featured or alluded to loneliness in old people.<\/p><p><strong>But it\u2019s not just older people who endure loneliness.<\/strong><\/p><p>Christmas is supposed to be a time for family. Yet for all kinds of reasons, like rushing around, wrestling with priorities, struggling with finances, managing expectations and many other aspects of the festive season that lead directly to increased stress, it can be a time when family members fall out.<\/p><p>And here\u2019s another thought. Why, in an age of the internet and online availability 24\/7 where we have never been so broadly and easily connected to others, do so many feel disconnected \u2013 or worse, isolated?<\/p><p>Contrary to popular belief, it is not just those of more mature years who struggle with isolation.\u00a0In 2023 the Office for Nation Statistics reported <strong>\u201c<\/strong><strong>one in 10 young people under the age of 30 in the UK feel lonely often or always\u201d<\/strong><\/p><p><strong>The Science of Connection<\/strong><\/p><p>So why do we need other people? There is plenty of fascinating neuroscience around the subject of loneliness and isolation. We have a psychological need to belong. For one thing, it impacts our \u2018emotional self\u2019 and in turn our self-esteem.<\/p><p>The emotional consequences of belonging have been well studied. A report in Psychology Today magazine says that bonds with other people can become causes for happiness. Supportive social networks can act as buffers against stress. The feeling of being connected to others can be a protective factor against depression. Among students, a sense of belonging to peers and teachers can positively affect academic performance and motivation. For some, belonging and attachment to co-workers is a better motivator than money.<\/p><p>It also references\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.scn.ucla.edu\/pdf\/Pains&amp;Pleasures(2008).pdf\">recent neuroscience studies<\/a>\u00a0that show that the brain uses similar circuits to deal with our social pleasures and pains as with our more tangible delights and woes. When social ties come undone and connections are severed, the resulting social injuries may affect our brains in similar ways to physical injuries. That leads some neuroscientists to suggest that human beings could be wired to feel pain when we are deprived of social connection, just as evolution has wired us to feel pain when we are deprived of basic needs like food, water and shelter.<\/p><p>In summary, we are simply not designed to be on our own.<\/p><p><strong>The Human Animal<\/strong><\/p><p>Nope! We are not the largest or strongest of animals. We don\u2019t have body armour or terrifying natural weapons like massive teeth, tusks or claws to attack or defend ourselves with. We don\u2019t spit venom. And we do have lots of soft bits that more dangerous animals would love to get their teeth into! Yet we are top of the food chain. How did that happen?<\/p><p>Because we work together; we enjoy safety in numbers and thrive when we are around other people. As we keep getting fancier and fancier in our approach to life, it easy to forget that it\u2019s the basics that can move the needle the most.<\/p><p>Making connections and having people in our lives is so important for our wellbeing and mental health. Remember the Five Ways to Wellbeing? From research endorsed by Mind and the\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.nhs.uk\/conditions\/stress-anxiety-depression\/improve-mental-wellbeing\/\">NHS<\/a>, they are: Connect, Be Active, Keep Learning, Give to Others, and Be Mindful.<\/p><p>I think we need to reinforce two key areas of the \u2018Five Ways\u2019 model:\u00a0<strong>Connect and Give.\u00a0<\/strong>Give of your time, knowledge, or even a kind word. And make a connection.<\/p><p>And there\u2019s a timely seasonal link to St. Francis of Assisi, one of the most venerated religious figures in history. Not only did he arrange the world\u2019s first live Christmas nativity scene in 1223, he also uttered these little words of wisdom:<\/p><p><em>\u201cFor it is in the giving that we receive.\u201d<\/em><\/p><p>Like so many times before, it seems that science is now catching up.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I think that you should be able to select more than one reason for rating. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":7842,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[98],"tags":[],"post_folder":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v22.6 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Loneliness during the Holidays - Oakwood Training<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.oakwoodtraining.co.uk\/loneliness-during-the-holidays\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_GB\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Loneliness during the Holidays - 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